Partnering with Caregivers: Helping Your Little One Sleep Better Together

A few weeks ago, I had the incredible honor of speaking at International Nanny Training Day, hosted by Nashville Nanny Connection — and what an experience it was!

The topic was how to get better naps

It was my first time addressing a room full of nannies, and honestly, it felt so special. The work they do, the love and attention they give our little ones — it's absolutely priceless. And the fact that they showed up on a Saturday to learn, grow, and deepen their expertise? Truly inspiring.

As I spoke about naps (one of the trickiest parts of sleep!), I couldn’t help but think about how important it is for parents and caregivers to work as a team. When babies and toddlers are cared for by someone new, even part-time, it can affect their sleep routines. But with a little intention and collaboration, we can make the transition smoother and more restful for everyone.

Here are some practical ways to partner with your child's caregiver to support healthy sleep:

1. Give your little one time to adjust

Transitions take time. Your child might need more than a week to feel comfortable and secure with their new caregiver. Be patient and know that this is a normal part of the process.

2. Have clear routines, but be flexible

Your nanny or caregiver might rock your baby differently, hum a different lullaby, or use a slightly different method to soothe them. As long as the overall goal is the same — helping your child get the rest they need — it’s okay to allow some flexibility. Consistency in the big picture matters more than matching every tiny detail.

3. Team up instead of just instructing

Rather than handing over a rigid schedule or a list of dos and don'ts, invite your caregiver into the conversation. Share what works at home, listen to their insights, and collaborate on a plan that feels good for both of you. When caregivers feel supported and included, they’re more confident and invested.

4. Use a simple sleep log or shared notes

Whether it’s a notebook, a shared app, or a quick daily text exchange, keeping track of wake windows, nap lengths, and bedtime routines can help maintain consistency. This makes it easier to notice patterns and adjust when needed.

5. Keep communication open and positive

If something isn’t working, talk about it with kindness and curiosity. Caregivers often have valuable observations and ideas — and when both sides feel heard, everyone benefits.

In the end, great sleep doesn’t just come from one method or one person. It’s about building a team around your child — a team that includes you, your partner (if you have one), and any other loving caregivers in your child’s life. When you work together with shared goals, your little one feels that safety and consistency... and better sleep naturally follows.

Have you partnered with your caregiver on sleep routines? I'd love to hear what's worked for you!